law school has changed my life in a million different ways – some good, some bad. i may never look at an elevator the same way because i’ve written about crashing elevators in eleventy different ways. i’ve gained some and i’ve lost some, but the losses that are the hardest to bear are the least tangible. i used to talk to my best friend at least once a week, and during fall semester, i didn’t even know she moved from one city to another. i’ve missed important moments that i’ll never get back, like wedding showers and birthday celebrations that just so happened to be scheduled in the teen weeks of my semesters. today, i mourn the lost memories.
an important thing to remember is that as i move forward in life, other people are moving forward, too. sometimes i forget that my friends aren’t frozen in time just waiting for me to get out of law school (how self-centered, i know). they’re busy working, planning weddings, having babies, studying, and just being. lately, i’ve just been lingering over my favorite memories with my bestest friends – sitting in bestie x’s apartment with bestie y, just reading gossip magazines, watching bad reality television and stuffing our faces with tuna helper. those were the days. but, life goes on. and we change.
thems is the breaks.
here i am, on the eve of the end of my 1L year. today, along with mourning the lost moments, i celebrate the person i’ve become because of law school. this place has squeezed every single tear out of me, so i don’t cry much anymore. it made me question my core values and brought me back full circle – i’m more sure of who i am now than i ever was before (and oh, did i think i was sure before this!). law school pushed and pulled – my brain swelled and stretched in response. my appreciation for my husband and for my family grew exponentially because they rallied around me. it wasn’t the funnest year ever, but it was maybe one of the most rewarding.